Reflection for the fourth week of Lent

Dearest Hope,

Yesterday’s powerful service touched so many of us–partly because so many of us have been touched by abuse, most as children. I could feel the love, compassion and solidarity in the sanctuary as Rick shared his heart and his life with us. His example of moving into forgiveness with his father was truly inspiring; where does it leave you as you think about those in your life who have hurt you?

We are deep into Lent now and Easter beckons. It’s time to look at the unforgiveness we hold against those who have deeply hurt, wounded or wronged us. Perhaps it’s abuse from your past or in the past of someone you love. Perhaps it’s a betrayal or even a death. This week, I invite you to face the big, dark, hard edges of that unforgiveness with the shining light of Christ.

If we want to forgive someone who hurt us very badly, how do we begin?

Psalm 118:5 “Out of my distress I called on the Lord; the Lord answered me and set me free.”

We absolutely most have God’s help in this endeavor. With God, it really is possible to forgive past hurts, even very big ones. Ask for God’s help. Say to God, “I really want to forgive this person, but I can’t. I don’t know how. It hurts too much. Help me. Show me how to forgive.” Listen for the promptings of the Spirit.

 

Then allow yourself to feel the loss, the grief, the hurt and the anger–not with the person, but by yourself! You can talk to a trusted friend or therapist or spiritual mentor, or you could write and write about it, or walk in the woods and think about it; however you can feel it and release it in a safe place. Pour out your bitterness, resentment and anger to God who will never tire of hearing you! Even if you tire of hearing yourself 😊

Then consider that forgiveness is an act of freeing ourselves from the pain of the past. You don’t forgive to free someone else. Do it for yourself. Unforgiveness keeps the past alive inside of us; we all know that the past is over. Whatever horrible events we endured, even though we may FEEL them still, we are actually in the present moment. Forgiveness frees us to live in the now and move into the life God has for us.

“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” Isaiah 43:18-19

 

Last, have patience. It can take many years, many practices (and sometimes it doesn’t!), and much reflection. With tenderness and compassion, approach this project as if you were the most beloved child of the Creator of Life–because you are.

many blessings,
Pastor Sam

4th Sunday of Lent, March 26th, 2017 – full service

Gospel John 9:1 – 41
Psalm 23

 

Reflection for the Third week of Lent

Dear Hope,

Now that we are well into our Lenten journey thinking about forgiveness, I want to share some thoughts on the practice to incorporate during the week as you “fast” from unforgiveness.

The first is that forgiveness is very hard–most of the time. In conversations with parishioners, the difficulty of forgiving has come up many times. We all know how challenging it feels to attempt to forgive someone who harmed us deeply. On the other hand, we often struggle to forgive petty injustices as well. As Steve’s forgiveness testimony so beautifully illustrated, even small infractions can have far reaching effects. I think we all related to that experience.

The second thought is that forgiveness is so hard because we, generally speak, don’t understand it and don’t do it for the right reasons! Most of us are taught that we need to forgive for the other person’s sake. In truth, forgiveness is an act that sets US free. It’s possible for it also to free the other person, but when we “do” forgiveness as if we are giving someone who hurt us a gift, we often still feel hurt and resentful, maybe even thinking, “why do I have to be the bigger person?” Well, nobody has to be the bigger person. If you choose that role, you operate out of your higher identity, Christ in you, which brings us back into right relationship with God.

This past Sunday’s Gospel lesson included these words spoken by Jesus: “I am fed by doing the will of the one who sent me and by completing his work” (John 4:34). That’s fantastic! What fed Jesus was doing God’s work. It also fed other people, of course, but it fed HIM. We are fed when we do “God’s work” by forgiving. Give yourself that gift so you can experience the spiritual sustenance that comes with letting go of angry, hurting thoughts that don’t cause anyone suffering but yourself.

This week as you explore forgiving yourself, God and others, imagine it as an act of self-kindness. Here is some more inspiration from religious writers and teacher !

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly. We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family.”  Henri Nouwen

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” Lewis Smedes

“People in general would rather die than forgive. It’s that hard. If God said in plain language. “I’m giving you a choice, forgive or die,” a lot of people would go ahead and order their coffin.” Sue Monk Kidd

“Forgiveness is not a one off decision; it is a journey and a process that takes time, determination, and persistence. Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life.” Corallie Buchanan

Many blessings and keep letting me know how it’s going,
Pastor Sam

Third Sunday of Lent – March 19th, 2017 Full Service

Epistle reading: Roman 5: 1-11
Gospel: John 4: 5-42

Sermon: “Sand Paper Forgiveness” – Rev. Sam Wilde
Choral Anthem: “Thou Wast, O God”

 

 

 

Second Sunday of Lent Worship Service 3/12/17

Enjoy our Worship Service for the Second Sunday in Lent.

Unfortunately the microphone stopped working for Lois’ message.  Here it is in case you would like to read it.

Message for March 12

The prayer that was used during our time of contemplative prayer:

The Knots Prayer

Dear God: Please untie the knots that are in my mind, my heart and my life.  Remove the have nots, the can nots and the do nots that I have in my mind.

Erase the will nots, may nots, and might nots that find a home in my heart.  Release me from the could nots, would nots and should nots that obstruct my life.

And most of all dear God, I ask that you remove from my mind, my heart and my life all of the “am nots” that I have allowed to hold me back, especially the thought that I am not good enough.

Amen

Little Black Dress Fashion Show

On Saturday, March 25th, we will host the Little Black Dress Fashion Show.  This is an afternoon of food, fun and of course fashion!  The doors will open for pre-show shopping at 11:00 AM.  At noon, we will have soup and sandwiches with cookies for dessert.  The main event, the fashion show, begins at 12:45. This year a prize will be given for the best decorated shoes – everyone knows, shoes are a girl’s best friend, so make them special and have fun.  The tickets are $5 and all profits go to help support our mission shares.  Buy those tickets now and let’s see what your imagination can create with your shoes! Come on ladies we know you’d love an afternoon of fun!

Tickets can be purchased at the church office (323-7584) or after church.